Stop Performing for Love
start creating the connection you've always desired
Jungian Relationship Coaching for Women Stuck in Performance
​​​Guiding women to uncover the unconscious patterns keeping them from closeness, connection, and love — so they can break the cycle and create relationships rooted in authenticity and attunement.
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Finding the love you desire begins with understanding what's been standing in your way.
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"Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life, and you will call it fate." - C. G. Jung
This Is For You If:
​You Perform for Love: You've learned to be helpful, agreeable, and capable—suppressing your needs and always putting others first.
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You Lose Yourself in Relationships: You become who the other person needs. You manage their emotions, prioritize their desires, and abandon yourself - hoping that if you can perfectly meet their needs, they'll finally meet yours.
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You Keep Repeating the Same Pattern: You can't seem to stop over-giving, over-functioning, and prioritizing others over yourself. And you're exhausted.
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You Push Away What You Crave: While you desperately want closeness and connection, you struggle to receive it. When someone takes a personal interest, you find yourself shutting down, losing attraction, or feeling distrustful. ​
You Played This Role For A Reason
But You're Ready For More
You learned early on what would best help you to survive and to fit in to your family and culture. What would keep you safe and loved. These early experiences formed your sense of self and your blueprint for love. Without you even realizing it - those early imprints are now running the show. And you find yourself:
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Performing for love instead of receiving it authentically
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Attracting the same type of dependent relationships over and over again
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Exhausting yourself emotionally because you lack clear boundaries
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Repeating draining and unfulfilling dynamics in love and in work
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But the good news? You aren't consciously creating these dynamics.
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When you can illuminate the unconscious threads that are tying the past to the present, you'll be able to step out of your old patterns and learn how to relate to life in an entirely new way.​
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This is when true transformation becomes possible.
Everything begins to shift when you Start To ask:
"What role am I playing in creating this dynamic?"
Hi, I'm Siara
​​I'm a relationship coach trained in Jungian Psychology, Social Neuroscience, and Eastern Wisdom traditions.
I work with women who keep repeating painful patterns in their love lives—choosing performance over authenticity, chronically over-giving, and losing themselves in relationships.
I know these patterns intimately because I lived them. I spent years believing that if I could just be good enough, helpful enough, perfect enough—I'd finally be loved. I kept seeking the problem outside myself until I realized: I was unconsciously recreating the same dynamics that made me feel unloved over and over again.
Understanding my unconscious patterns—the attachment wounds, the early blueprints, the ways I was sabotaging connection—changed everything. Not just my relationship, but my entire life.
Now I guide women to see the unconscious roots of their patterns. To understand the unconscious beliefs, fears, and imprints that are shaping their life. To empower them to build a foundation of love within themselves. And to create the authentic, connected relationships they've always desired.
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This is the work. And it transforms everything.
How We Work Together
​Relationship Coaching Rooted in Depth Psychology
For women ready to stop repeating patterns so they can create the love they've always desired.
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1. Uncover the Unconscious Patterns
We explore the early attachment patterns and relationship blueprints that formed in your childhood—and how they're showing up in your love life now. Using depth psychology, we bring awareness to what's been operating beneath the surface.
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2. Understand Your Role
You'll see clearly how you've been contributing to the dynamics—not to shame yourself, but to empower yourself. Because when you understand your role, you can change it.
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3. Transform Your Relationships
With awareness of your patterns, you can make different choices. Stop performing and start being authentic. Stop pushing away intimacy and learn to receive it. Create relationships rooted in genuine connection, attunement, and love.
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The foundation of lasting love starts with you.
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What clients are saying
Katie B.
"I've been working with Siara over the past six months and have grown tremendously through her coaching. She has consistently held a safe and open space for me to candidly share my doubts and the blocks that have come up for me through the process. She is gentle, open, caring, and a complete advocate for my success - challenging me in some uncomfortable areas, using her vast wisdom to question my mindset when needed, and catapulting me into tremendous growth. If you want to shift your current feelings and mindset about any situation that's not working for you, I definitely recommend working with Siara - guaranteed shifts WILL happen for you!"
Adam V.
"Siara is full of depth, compassion, and a level of wisdom I have never encountered in a coach before. She brings something rare to this work: an intuitive presence that meets you exactly where you are, combined with a fierce commitment to helping you uncover what’s been hidden beneath the surface.
Working with her has been unlike anything I’ve experienced. She has helped me open the door to my unconscious and face parts of myself I didn’t even know were shaping my life. Challenges I had been stuck in for years began to shift with her guidance.
Siara doesn’t just coach. She sees you and listens in a way that makes you feel known. Her presence has been transformative in my life, and I am beyond grateful for the work we’ve done together."
Amelia B.
"Siara is the ultimate guide. She is the ruby red slippers. A session with her is like hanging with an old friend, who just happens to be an insightful old soul. Our time together brings connection with one another, and with my own self. There are frequent deep soul and physiological realizations that I myself unearth but she leads me right to the perfect spot for me to find them, and then I have to wonder how I didn’t see them all along. She can bring you to the home you always have within you, and work on some reorganizing and polishing up. Each session fortifies the connection and understanding between all the selves within—the good, the bad, the ugly—it’s a beautiful thing. I always emerge seeing myself and this world a little bit clearer."
