Are You Willing To Descend? — Depth Psychology And Self Discovery

I don’t know how to be a "good" coach. I don’t know how to check the boxes and facilitate growth in a pretty linear way. Because that isn’t how a person’s becoming takes place. Growth is circular, and messy, and you cross your own paths over and over again as you wander about in search of meaning. You might come to me wanting to be a better wife, mother, or employee. Maybe you want to be more fit, more confident, more fun, or spontaneous. But where did that idealized image of what you need to be come from? Why do you feel the need to constantly optimize yourself, to be the latest most updated version of who you can be? And what if that optimization is actually taking you further from soul?

Have you stopped to question that internal image you carry around? Of the right way a woman should be? Who gave you that? Where did you learn it? Maybe you were taught that productivity should come above all else. That you should be able to do everything, and anything less than super woman meant that you needed to try harder. Maybe you were taught to always stay positive, that no one wanted to face a woman’s emotions. Her sensitivity and tenderness and depth. You had to be the sun, and shine brightly for everyone else all the time. And your doom and gloom would only bring others down. You start living for what everyone else expects and thinks you should be. A psychic limb gets chopped off here, there, everywhere. Until you’re left with almost nothing - other than the massive beating drum that continues to urge you to chase being something else.

But what if all of our intensity, all of our tenderness, and all of our depth, was exactly what the world actually needed? What if you were meant to paint the walls with all of that vibrant color inside of you, even though others told you to only reach for the beige? What would it look like for you to break free and stop living for others?

I can’t quite tell you. Because surprise, surprise, your journey isn’t mine. The gifts you’re meant to bring to the world are not mine. They belong to no one else but you… I can tell you the typical terrain that you’ll have to cover to reclaim those gifts. I can hold space for the waves of emotions that will pour through you when you open up the channel to your body. I’m here to help you follow the threads that you will struggle to hold onto when you start descending into the dark. But I cannot tell you what will become of you. If I could - we would both know that you are not on your journey. And that I would be just another person telling you what was meant for you.

I am in truth, a depth facilitator. I help you to meet yourself deeper than you ever have before. For some this journey will start in the shallows, a vague unease that they were meant for more, and not the more that their culture prescribed. Their process of diving down to greater depths might be slow and intentional. For others their initiation to the underworld will be swift and thorough. They may not have choice in their descent. But either way, gold is not found above ground.

So are you willing to dig into the depths of who you are? Are you willing to descend down into the dark to discover what is well and wholly true, for you? Your inward descent will prove to be the most important journey you ever take. Fear what is unknown to you, but descend anyway. This is your life, and it’s about time that you started living it.